Monday, March 22, 2010

Style: Electric Lady Land!

My eyes tend to naturally gravitate to Alexander McQueen - oh how I will miss thee! 


Real Talk: Does Time Define Us or Do We Define Time!?

Time: a momentpointpoint in timeoccasionhourminutesecondinstantjuncturestage. 

Time has a great impact on ones life. Whether that be an hour, day, week or even a year. I will be turning 25 this year and I find myself thinking about time, life, happiness, and family more than ever. Its been an ongoing search/discovery for the past 5 years. When I was younger I thought my life would be very different. I thought I had all the time in the world to do whatever, whenever I wanted. As I started to get older I started to realize this was not true. See, even though time is documented, time is still invisible. You don't find yourself staring at the clock every second of every day for the entire year. You glance at it one moment, and by the next moment you  look back, that time has passed and will not return and all while not even noticing. What you did in that time may or may have not be important but it doesn't matter because that time has already passed.

Time is linked with everything. All of your decisions are based off of timing if you really think about it. When you wake up, sleep, shower, work , eat, go, love, marriage, kids, vacations, etc. Everything revolves around time.

Which brings me to my question that has had me thinking lately. Is there really such a thing called good timing? There were some events that took place a few years ago in which I had to make some important decisions. I based those decisions off of timing. I felt as though it was not good timing to proceed down a certain path. Years went by and I find myself at another place where I might have to make a difficult decision. Now there is no doubt my life has changed substantially in the past few years, but I still don't find myself at the ideal timing to make that decision. When I compare the time then to the time now, it makes me wonder if there ever will be a right timing for something or is it you making it the right timing for something by just doing so because that's what was destined to be??

Time seems to be flying by in comparison to when I was younger. One being that I have much more responsibilities, the other being that life seems a lot more complicated in general. Who ever said it gets easier as you get older obviously was either on drugs or delusional because they LIED! lol

Time is complex and quite difficult to figure out when pertaining to your life decisions.  I'm sure as time goes by, it will have a way of working itself out in conjunction with my decisions...

Do you believe in good or bad timing? Does time define us or do we define time?

Anyway, I may have made absolute no sense but i believe it writing how I feel whether it makes sense or not ;)

it's all a matter of time,

Imagery: Nature!

For all I can remember I was never the outdoor type of girl. I really didn't gain anthing per se from mother nature other then LOVING the rain. 

As I'm getting older, I have noticed a lot of things are changing about myself. Things I didn't like when I was younger I seem to LOVE now a days. One of the things I find surprising is my new found love for nature and all its simplistic beauty it has to offer.

The other day I was in the worst mood ever driving home from work. My thoughts were racing as they usually do on my drive home, when I realized it was still light out side, and the route I take is beautiful. I usually race home because who really wants to stay on the road? but for some reason I was driving slower than usual and took in all the beauty nature had to offer. Before I knew it, my bad mood had disappeared. I was so taken back by the scenery, that my mood completely changed and I started to smile.

How could I not smile. The mountains were fully covered with mossy green grass lighted by a bright blue sky. I felt as though I wasn't even in southern cali, it was so beautiful. I wanted to stop and take some pictures but I didn't have my camera on me so I plan to next weekend on my way home. It's crazy because I find myself taking more interest into my mothers amazing garden, asking her all kinds of questions regarding her plants, etc. Who knows I might even take us some gardening in the near future. My mother always says that gardening is the best medicine for a happy mind. Maybe I am just getting old, but I am definitely not entertained by the same things I was 5 years ago...

I found some pics of the back road I take home so you can get a glimpse of what I am talking about...

Maybe i've been distracted all these years from nonsense that I am now finding the true meaning of beauty and it is all natural - as it was destined to be. 


Saturday, March 20, 2010

Real Talk: L.O.V.E.

There is only one happiness in life -- to love and to be loved.

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free. 

Maya Angelou 

love is a beautiful thing indeed,

Men Vs. Women: Language Barrier!

The other night I was having quite the interesting conversation with 
my guy friend and boyfriend about men and women. A rather popular 
topic indeed, but almost always ends in confusion. 

What I realized from this conversation, which I have known for quite 
some time, is that women speak a language men can't seem to 

For instance, my friend was telling me about a text he received from a
girl he was dating. Apparently, he took the message out of context 
which I believe is one of the biggest problems when it comes to 
men & women.

The messages go a little something like this....

Her: Hi, how are you?

Him: Hi, I'm good just have so much to do still before work. I still need to run some errands before I leave to vegas this weekend.

Her: do you work today?

Him: yes

Her: what time?

Him: 3

Her: you still have time take your shirt in the car

Him: Huh???

Here is where the language barrier kicks in. Most women including myself seem to speak in code, and that code being incomplete sentencesAs incomplete as it sounds, we still expect most to understand us. Funny thing is, when we speak incomplete sentences with other women they understand just fine. Thus creating the ongoing problem. Maybe it's because most men DO NOT pay attention to the whole conversation as they tend to tune us in and out as they please...then wonder why they are confused in the end. The combination of both leads us to a language barrier!

My friend and his girl already have some communication issues as she tends to be hot and cold and doesn't like to express her emotions...

His interpretation of that text: Obviously she was texting with someone else and she sent it to me on accident because that just made no damn sense. Maybe it was some other dude she's talking too...

I then preceded to ask him what time she sent that text at,  and he replied 9am. I then said "ummm, I don't think she was texting someone else, she was texting you retard!" LOL

My interpretation of that text: basically she was saying that you still have time to run some errands being that its 9am then and you don't go to work until 3pm. Take your uniform in the car with you and just change on your way to work so you can get your shit done in time. 

He was like "ohhhhh", with a very confused/smile on his face. "that might very well be what she meant, but how the fuck am I supposed understand all that with that text message."

Now all my ladies who are reading this might be like "DUHHHHH!!!" but men seriously don't understand our language or incomplete sentences rather.  What she should have wrote was "you still have time to run your errands just get ready before, take your work shirt with you in the car, and change on your way to work once your done running your errands." Thats a lot to say in a text message right? YEP! Which is why I believe text messaging could be a gift but also a curse to dating!

When you communicate via text messaging versus a phone conversation, you can't decipher the tone, or emotion behind the words of text message as you would with a phone conversation or better yet, face to face.

This is seriously just one of the billions of examples that occur on a daily base between men & women. The sad thing is a lot of unnecessary problems occur from harmless conversations....

My advice to men: pay attention, and to women: speak in complete sentences, and to all: less text more phone and or face to face ;) 

I'm curious to know how others view this situation so all comments are welcome!!


Style: Green With Envy!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Real Talk: Life & Love go Hand in Hand!

You have the ability to love. And from that ability comes every ability. Love can transform your most painful burden into your richest blessing. Stop fighting against what is and begin to love what you know you can be. Live in love, and you live with power. Live in love, and enable the best within you to know full expression. Love keeps you focused on what truly matters. Love keeps you going against all odds. Let go of worry, anxiety, anger and frustration, and love is there. It shines more brightly than ever. Live in love. And you live in full.

-- Ralph Marston


Monday, March 8, 2010

Real Talk: Live Beyond Fear!

There is real treasure at the center of your being. Yet fear can keep that treasure hidden and inaccessible. Fear of failure can keep you from taking the steps necessary to succeed. Fear of being wrong can prevent you from making the choices that are truly right for you. Fear of loss leaves you unable to win. Fear gives power and influence to whatever it is you fear. Yet fear can exist only when you view life through the narrow window of your ego. Get beyond that ego, and fear no longer has any place to inhabit. When you view the rest of life as being separate and disconnected from you, that provides fertile ground for destructive fear. The more fully you realize and the more deeply you understand your connection to all that is, the more quickly the fears will vanish.Stop listening to your ego and you'll stop being a prisoner of fear. Think and act and feel beyond yourself and you'll live well beyond the fear.

-- Ralph Marston


Sunday, March 7, 2010

Real Talk: Examine The Weak to Become Strong!

Don't be afraid to examine your weaknesses. In them you'll find some of your greatest potential. Certainly you can always make improvements to what you already do well. Yet at best, those will be incremental improvements. Consider, though, what happens when you work on overcoming your weaknesses. The results in your life can be revolutionary. In fact, transforming a weakness into a strength can make all your other strengths more effective. When the weakness is no longer holding you back, every part of your life will see the benefits. Be thankful for your strengths. And be honest about your weaknesses. For when you are clear about what you cannot yet do well, that's the first step to improvement. Any weakness can be transformed into strength when you simply have the courage to grow.

-- Ralph Marston


Saturday, March 6, 2010

Link Love!

I find myself perusing blogs more than blogging myself these days therefor I wanted to share. Here are some sites that I find myself visiting daily ;)

Check them out for yourself...enjoy!


Real Talk: Look Within the Possibility!

You are not a victim of circumstance. You are a beneficiary of possibility.Difficult conditions do not impose a burden. They deliver opportunity, in great abundance. No matter what happens or what fails to happen, there is always a kernel of goodness and positive possibility to be found. Decide to see it, decide to harness it, decide to make the most of it, and you will. Circumstances, as powerful and disruptive as they may be, do not have any driving purpose or intention. You, on the other hand, do. When you connect with that purpose, and energize that intention, you can bring great triumph out of any situation. With a strong and clearly defined purpose, everything becomes an opportunity.
See what is, and translate it into the best of what can be. Any time is right, when you are ready.

-- Ralph Marston