The other night I was having quite the interesting conversation with
my guy friend and boyfriend about men and women. A rather popular
topic indeed, but almost always ends in confusion.
What I realized from this conversation, which I have known for quite
some time, is that women speak a language men can't seem to
For instance, my friend was telling me about a text he received from a
girl he was dating. Apparently, he took the message out of context
which I believe is one of the biggest problems when it comes to
men & women.
The messages go a little something like this....
Her: Hi, how are you?
Him: Hi, I'm good just have so much to do still before work. I still need to run some errands before I leave to vegas this weekend.
Her: do you work today?
Her: what time?
Her: you still have time take your shirt in the car
Here is where the language barrier kicks in. Most women including myself seem to speak in code, and that code being incomplete sentences. As incomplete as it sounds, we still expect most to understand us. Funny thing is, when we speak incomplete sentences with other women they understand just fine. Thus creating the ongoing problem. Maybe it's because most men DO NOT pay attention to the whole conversation as they tend to tune us in and out as they please...then wonder why they are confused in the end. The combination of both leads us to a language barrier!
My friend and his girl already have some communication issues as she tends to be hot and cold and doesn't like to express her emotions...
His interpretation of that text: Obviously she was texting with someone else and she sent it to me on accident because that just made no damn sense. Maybe it was some other dude she's talking too...
I then preceded to ask him what time she sent that text at, and he replied 9am. I then said "ummm, I don't think she was texting someone else, she was texting you retard!" LOL
My interpretation of that text: basically she was saying that you still have time to run some errands being that its 9am then and you don't go to work until 3pm. Take your uniform in the car with you and just change on your way to work so you can get your shit done in time.
He was like "ohhhhh", with a very confused/smile on his face. "that might very well be what she meant, but how the fuck am I supposed understand all that with that text message."
Now all my ladies who are reading this might be like "DUHHHHH!!!" but men seriously don't understand our language or incomplete sentences rather. What she should have wrote was "you still have time to run your errands just get ready before, take your work shirt with you in the car, and change on your way to work once your done running your errands." Thats a lot to say in a text message right? YEP! Which is why I believe text messaging could be a gift but also a curse to dating!
When you communicate via text messaging versus a phone conversation, you can't decipher the tone, or emotion behind the words of text message as you would with a phone conversation or better yet, face to face.
This is seriously just one of the billions of examples that occur on a daily base between men & women. The sad thing is a lot of unnecessary problems occur from harmless conversations....
My advice to men: pay attention, and to women: speak in complete sentences, and to all: less text more phone and or face to face ;)
I'm curious to know how others view this situation so all comments are welcome!!