Real Talk: Excess Baggage!

When you find yourself so comfortable, you tend to let go and relax. That is exactly what happened in my past relationship. I got so comfortable that I had put on some weight and stopped taking care of myself. If there is anything good that came out of my break up, it is that I am finding myself again. I got so lost in the relationship wanting to please my partner that I forgot about myself. Relationships are time consuming, but if there is one thing that I have learned from my past, don't ever forget about yourself & always make time for YOU! 

I am eating healthier, working out everyday and on my way to getting my sexy back! 

Stay tuned for my progress, nutrition, & fitness tips! 

xoxo,

Longest Break Yet...

As I sit here listening to some music, I realize that this is the longest break I have taken from the blog yet. Why might you curiously ask? Well life is exactly why! It has a way of creeping up on you when you least expect it. You tend to naturally plan your life out when 9 out of 10 times, it doesn't happen the way you plan. Life is much bigger than both you and I. It has a plan for us, and no matter what we try to do, it's sticking to it's plan...and we are just a long for the ride.

2010 thus far has been far more of an emotional roller-coaster then 2009. I thought 2009 was bad. Ha! Jokes on me I guess. So much has happened that I don't even know where to begin. I guess to make a long story short...my better half and I decided to part ways after 7 years, I went to school to become a nurse just to find out that I love fashion too much to just give up, and last but not least I am on a personal journey trying to find myself from the inside out. 

No matter how many tears I've cried in these past few months, I can't be sad for what has happened or where I am at in my life. I am here for a reason, as this is the path that will take me to where I truly belong. It has been hard and emotional to say the very least, but gives me hope for a better future. The crazy thing about life is, you never see it coming. I mean you honestly are blindsided by the events that creep up on you, and we manage to push through it. It's truly amazing to think of what is still to come. I'm sure there's going to bad and good events, but I'm mainly hoping for the good ;)

xoxo,

Real Talk: Does Time Define Us or Do We Define Time!?

Time: a moment, point, point in time, occasion, hour, minute, second, instant, juncture, stage. 

Time has a great impact on ones life. Whether that be an hour, day, week or even a year. I will be turning 25 this year and I find myself thinking about time, life, happiness, and family more than ever. Its been an ongoing search/discovery for the past 5 years. When I was younger I thought my life would be very different. I thought I had all the time in the world to do whatever, whenever I wanted. As I started to get older I started to realize this was not true. See, even though time is documented, time is still invisible. You don't find yourself staring at the clock every second of every day for the entire year. You glance at it one moment, and by the next moment you  look back, that time has passed and will not return and all while not even noticing. What you did in that time may or may have not be important but it doesn't matter because that time has already passed.

Time is linked with everything. All of your decisions are based off of timing if you really think about it. When you wake up, sleep, shower, work , eat, go out...money, love, marriage, kids, vacations, etc. Everything revolves around time.

Which brings me to my question that has had me thinking lately. Is there really such a thing called good timing? There were some events that took place a few years ago in which I had to make some important decisions. I based those decisions off of timing. I felt as though it was not good timing to proceed down a certain path. Years went by and I find myself at another place where I might have to make a difficult decision. Now there is no doubt my life has changed substantially in the past few years, but I still don't find myself at the ideal timing to make that decision. When I compare the time then to the time now, it makes me wonder if there ever will be a right timing for something or is it you making it the right timing for something by just doing so because that's what was destined to be??

Time seems to be flying by in comparison to when I was younger. One being that I have much more responsibilities, the other being that life seems a lot more complicated in general. Who ever said it gets easier as you get older obviously was either on drugs or delusional because they LIED! lol

Time is complex and quite difficult to figure out when pertaining to your life decisions.  I'm sure as time goes by, it will have a way of working itself out in conjunction with my decisions...

Do you believe in good or bad timing? Does time define us or do we define time?

Anyway, I may have made absolute no sense but i believe it writing how I feel whether it makes sense or not ;)

it's all a matter of time,

A New Year, A New Day?

Ten days into the new year and it doesn't feel any different. For me, I try to take each day as new years day because in reality, each day is a new day...

I do however seem to reflect on the past year as the new year rolls in. In this I try to honestly analyze both the good and the bad in order to progress into the woman I want to be.

This past year was quite eventful for me. I learned a lot about myself and at the same time my once very clear path became blurred and left me feeling lost & unsure. I felt as though I failed, and it was hard for me to look past that. If there's one thing I know about myself, that is, I always think about the future. Even if my plans falls through, I always make long term plans. This year, some of my plans fell through... which lead me to a new path. It's funny how when you're younger, at least for me, I thought I would be somewhere completely different at my age. Here I am, going to be turning 25 this year, and not even close to where I envisioned I would be. At the same time, I am not that very same person who had those envisions years ago. I in-fact am quite different. My likes, dislikes, personality, wants, desires, & maturity has all very much changed which would probably have something to do with where I am at today.

"You are on the road to success when you realize failure is merely a detour." W.G.P.

I could analyze all day long what I should have done, why I didn't, etc. but instead I will focus each new day on what I WILL do to get to where I want to be each day. Instead of thinking long term goals, which I always tend to do, I am going to try something different and plan short term goals. Instead of 5-10 year plans, I will focus more on 1-3 year plans. I'd like to think of myself as an honest person, therefore there are some things I honestly can say I lack that I will work on this year. I will be applying changes to my daily life in hopes of progressing to be the best I can be.

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
Albert Einstein


xoxo,




T

Quick Update!

So as you may know, I have been gone for quite some time. All for good reasons though! I have been going through some major transitioning and I like where I'm headed. In any case, I thought I would let you know that I will be moving blogs! I will not be posting on this blog as much anymore as you can now find me at Garment Vault :)

This is what I have been working on while I have been MIA, and so far its been incredible! I have been getting such a great response from the site and all I can say is a HUGEEEE thank you to all those who have supported me, it is GREATLY appreciated! 

If you are wondering what Garment Vault is, well... its an online retailer of fashion forward apparel, shoes, & accessories for the style conscious and trend-savvy shoppers who want designer looks for less. I basically came to the conclusion that even during these tough economic times, I still want to look good! Therefore, I am now on the hunt for fabulous apparel, shoes, & accessories from independent designers all over the country that is still affordable & chic! It is still a work in progress so continue to check back as there is sooo much more to come! 

I will be updating the garment vault blog on the regular, in addition to the online store! I hope all is well with you and I did in-fact miss you guys A LOT!!

xoxo,

T

Moving on to Bigger & Better...

Its been quite some time since I have last blogged....

Since my last post, I have been soul searching as I had finally left my job that I was so thoroughly involved with. I mean I was completely and utterly consumed with my job, which at that point I thought was my life. Shit happened and it made me realize that life is too short, and you need to be involved with things that truly matter to you, and make you happy at the end of the day. After a month of looking within, I decided to venture off onto something new.

I am scared and nervous of what the future holds... but I can not let fear get in the way of my dreams. I am venturing off onto unknown territories. A path that is foreign to me. However, I am up for the challenge no matter how difficult it shall be...because at the end of the day it is all mine, and my success is ultimately in the hands of my own which no one can take nor take advantage of. In that I already feel that I am on the right track.

I am also in the process of moving so I have been in the mist of cleaning, packing, moving, organizing, etc. I am all about getting my life in order these days...one section at a time!

I apologize for being absent. I just haven't had a break since high school. I went from high school to college to internship to job, to other job, etc. I really haven't had any time off in between and I felt I just needed to unwind and rejuvenate myself before I proceed any further. I needed to gain some perspective...which at times is best when taking a step back to take a step forward.

I do feel like I have taken a few steps back but all to make those right steps forward!

I hope all is well with everyone!


Until next time ;)


T

Long Story Short...

These past few months have been intense, to say the least. I've had to do a lot of soul searching, and looking at things for what they truly are instead of how I wanted them to be. I had to make some decisions that were difficult, but ultimately were the best for me, because in the end I deserved better. It's funny how everyone around you tells you what you can't see, but in time it becomes so clear....

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, and look for the good, even when it's bad...

After all the drama, I am so at peace with my decision. Actually, I feel amazing. I have learned that one, I will never compromise my self worth, nor morals, and two, I will be very selective with whom I work with. Many times, people enter your life having ulterior motifs, and I will now pay close attention to those who enter my life, as I have already rid myself of those who had ulterior motifs! 

The greatest thing is I have such a wonderful, loving, support system that is there for me no matter what... and that's what matters at the end of the day!

xoxo,

T

I KNOW, I KNOW, I KNOW....

It's been a coooooool minute since I've last blogged...

Please excuse my absence, its been 15 hour days at work trying to get this huge order out! By the time I get home, shower, & finally eat, my brain is fried to do anything else other than sleep! Sometimes I can't even fall asleep since I'm so stressed about work and end up falling asleep 2 hours before my alarm goes off :/

I have less then one week until I have to ship out this order and it's been one disaster after another unfortunately. Its been bananas to say the least....

I should get back to the swing of things soon and I just wanted to say HIIIIII! until then :) In the meantime, catch me on twitter to converse... it seems to work well with my schedule these days!

xoxo,



T

Note To Self...

• Know that problems are meant to be solved.
  
• Learn not to stress out so much.
  
• Make more of an attempt to balance out business & pleasure.
• Try to understand and accept people for who they are to minimize disappointment.
• Know that everything happens for a reason. Only time will be able to reveal that reason.
• Keep in mind that things that enter your life as adversaries are sent to stretch you towards your gifts. Your talents are developed in your defenses.
  
• Remind yourself that at the end of the day, good nor bad, Life is a blessing worth cherishing.

xoxo,

T - a constant work in progress ;)

Real Talk.

" Some succeed because they are destined to, but most succeed because they are determined to."


LETS GO!!!!


P.S. I know I have been MIA...work has been bananas and so has the personal life! Its been 15 hour days for the past two weeks, and it doesn't look like the load is going to lighten up anytime soon. I shouldn't complain though....there are a lot of GREAT things in the works that I will be sharing very soon :D


STAY TUNED!

xoxo,

T-miss bussssyyy bee!